Coco Chanel once said, “Fashion comes and goes but style lasts forever.” I have to be honest, I never really gave this quote too much thought. I mean it is what it is – clothes are just clothes and nothing more, right?
When I sat down to write this second post I knew exactly what I wanted to write about, my grandma Enstrom. Since I was a young girl my grandma has always been my fashion icon. She has always dressed amazingly, has always put together the most fabulous outfits and will always be my favorite shopping buddy. I like to think I got my love of fashion (or shopping) from her.
My grandma always tells the story of the times I would call her on the phone when I was younger and ALWAYS say “grandma, can I stay the night at your house this weekend, and can we go shopping and then go to Arby’s and get some curly fries” (smart little girl I was, who doesn’t love a good curly fry?). Well 20 years later, I still love shopping, and I definitely still love curly fries.
I’ve learned a lot from shopping with my grandma, who in my opinion is the greatest shopper who has ever walked this earth! Here’s a few of the many things I’ve learned from her:
# 1) She taught me if you don’t absolutely love an outfit at first glance, leave it. If you can’t stop thinking about it after some time passes, then go back and get it. There is no worse feeling then buying something and having instant regret. This handy little grandma trick has helped me a lot in the past on not having buyer’s remorse.
#2) She’s never truly expressed this next thought. But now looking back, she always splurged on the RIGHT items. This is something that took me YEARS to master. I used to buy a new black purse every so often for $50ish, and every year that purse would get so beat up and fall apart and I would have to buy a new one every 6-12 months. Well after 2 years of that, I spent well over $200 on purses I had to throw away. Annoying right? That’s when it clicked! Splurge on items that don’t go out of style and that can last a long time (if not a lifetime). Splurging a little on your purses will actually save you money in the long run. Now, I know everyone’s “splurge” is much different than the next persons, and that’s fine, I definitely won’t be splurging on a Fendi bag anytime soon. But I have found that good designers like Michael Kors, Kate Spade (my personal favorite) and Tory Burch are purses that are good quality and last a LONG time. I have had my Kate Spade purse for over 3 years and it still looks brand new, is still “in” and it is still my favorite go to purse. Now, if I would of purchased a not so “high quality” purse, I would of purchased 4-6 $50 purses in that time frame, which would have been more money then what I spent on my Kate Spade. There are several good places to find deals on Kate Spade purses, Michael Kors purses and on Tory Burch purses as well.
#3) My grandma always used to talk about outfit planning – how she could wear specific pieces several different ways or to several different occasions. When I was younger that wasn’t something on my mind. If I wanted a dress for a special occasion and I already knew I would never wear it again, I didn’t even blink an eye – I would buy it. Now that I am a mother, I am a more “practical” shopper. When I buy something I now think to myself, can I lug around a 25 lb child wearing this? Will my butt hang out when lugging around the 25lb child? Can I wear this outfit to several occasions? Is this something I will be able to wear for several years? Now, don’t get me wrong there ARE times you need to spoil yourself and buy that MUST have item. But for the most part it’s all about planning ahead or “smart shopping” – finding items that you know you can wear a lot of different ways for several different occasions.
These shorts from J.Crew Factory are a hot item in my closet, meaning it is a piece I KNOW is worth the money because I will get a lot of use out of them. When I initially saw them I thought to myself those would be super cute, casual shorts for errands, day trips and even for golf, so to me that was enough reasons to buy them. It wasn’t till I got the shorts in the mail that I realized they were a slam dunk purchase! Not only was the price amazing, but I realized I can take these shorts from casual, all the way up to a dressier girl’s night out look! Here are a few different ways you can style the same shorts from casual, to semi-dressy, to girl’s night out dressy!
Anne Klein said it perfectly when she said, “Clothes aren’t going to change the world. The women who wear them will.” I just recently signed up to volunteer as a personal stylist for Dress for Success and I absolutely cannot wait to start! When I was still working in the social work field, I referred several of my clients to this wonderful organization. When my clients came back from their appointment, with their new head to toe interview outfit, they were completely beaming from ear to ear. It amazed me what a new outfit did for these women – it gave them confidence! Confidence to go into their interview and to knock it out of the park and that is what it’s all about. If you want to wear high heels when you work out or sweatpants to a formal event do it! Do what works for you and what is practical in your life. Clothes are just clothes, but it’s about how the outfit makes you feel that is truly magical. As women, I think it is important to always support, encourage and cheer on others in ALL their endeavors. BeYOUtiful.
Special shout out needs to be given to my style guru and my favorite shopping buddy for life- my grandma. Thank you for always taking me on your shopping excursions and spoiling me with curly fries after. Those will be moments I will hold near and dear to my heart forever and ever! I love you!
(Note: Complete outfit details are linked under “shop my instagram” tab)
All photos taken by my adorable husband!
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